Most of us that have grown up in the Western World have been indoctrinated with popular Western World philosophies and religious beliefs. This blog post is in no way, shape, or form being written to sway you from your current religious system or set of beliefs. My only intent with this post is to provide you with some insight as to where the world was prior to the development of those religious systems. Why? Well, because it has everything to do with the modern woman’s story. Her-story: how we were raised in this world, how we navigate through the world of today, and what our goddess spirit intuitively knows.
The last blog post I did was entitled “(P) is for Permission”. In it, we explored giving yourself permission to love yourself and allowing pleasure into your lives. The (LI) in this post stands for “limited information”, referencing the PLISSIT model of sex therapy created in 1976 by Jack S. Annon. PLISSIT is a modeling system used in sexology. I am using it for our initial blog posts because I think it is important that, within this program, we can clearly define to ourselves steps that we can use to move towards our overall goals from a knowledge standpoint, and to be able to “define” where we are starting from and where we are going throughout this program.
I am addressing LI here in this post as a “group” whole for women. Research has proven that our DNA has memory. As you read below, I want you to ask yourself what your DNA memory may hold as a truth for you, a woman. I challenge you to investigate a bit further by reading some of the works by the suggested Her-story authors that provide evidence and fact-based material on the female matriarchal story.
*(Human Transgenerational Responses (TGRs) in humans is a defined exposure in one generation producing a measurable outcome in the next, unexposed generation(s). The nature of the transgenerational signaling in humans is unknown, but epigenetic inheritance is one candidate.) https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007%2F978-3-642-23380-7_12
Linda E. Savage, Ph.D. and author of the book “Reclaiming Goddess Sexuality” writes that we need to look at female sexuality from an entirely female point of view. She gives evidence of this need by giving examples of how modern book and magazine titles focus on our overall consciousness on “how to please our man or we may lose him” mindset, so that we as women know how to play the “sex kitten” 365 days of the year.
While I agree with the need to look at female sexuality from a female point of view, I’m hesitant to say from a “modern” feminine view point. You see, the catch is that these books and materials aren’t selling by the millions because men are requesting their women to purchase them, BUT because modern women are feeling broken in their bodies and sexuality, so they are looking for a cure all and don’t know where to find it based on the limited information we have been given.
Let’s face it. When a young girl becomes aware she is developing, in our society she is also aware of the social stigmas attached to her feminine form. She has access to all different mainstream info that hypersexualizes the female form yet is given contradictory “sex negative” information as well. Young girls are not allowed to wear tank tops or dresses with straps less than 1 inch thick in most public schools, they are told to sit with their legs crossed, and in my daughter’s junior high school the girls are not allowed to wear yoga pants because they are “too form fitting” and could be a distraction for boys. Girls are told not to walk alone, which also explains why it is in our second nature in our 20’s to grab a friend to go to the bathroom with us. We go “in pairs” when at a bar or clubs, a common joke upon young men. They don’t get it. Boys/men are simply not given the same information growing up. Young women are told a man will not value her if she chooses to sleep with him too soon. Young women are told that if they sleep with a man before marriage he will not marry her. “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”. If a woman enjoys sex and has multiple partners, she is labeled a slut by society and she sometimes takes on that persona and the shame that comes with it with in our culture.
My point here is we have been given limited information (LI) that tells us one thing; that our bodies are the source of temptation, sin, guilt and shame and that if we behave, dress, speak, and act a certain way, basically censoring our bodies and our sexuality, then we are of value to society. Yet intuitively, as women, we are feeling the very gap in spirit… DNA memory (I believe) that Linda sheds light on within the pages of her book, in which she does some wonderful comparisons of how a modern woman can be conditioned to feel and think vs. an ancient woman from a matriarchal society of the past.
The evidence of modern women feeling this void is in the SALES of books, magazines, the entire beauty & fashion industry, and the sex toy industry! There is a HUGE profit to be gained in a patriarchal society by the brokenness of a woman’s spirit. Most women I have spoken to feel intuitively there is a lie somewhere that has been told to us.
There are many great her-storians; Barbara G Walker, author of “Restoring the Goddess” and “The Women’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets”. Merlin Stone, author of “When God Was a Woman”. These authors bring to the surface truths within history/herstory that were buried & burned during the Inquisition that began in the 12th century and was finally abolished in the 19th century. Prior to the Inquisition, ancient matriarchal cultures that once dominated the earth held that men and women were equal, while women owned all property, children took the mothers name, sex was celebrated, and prostitutes resided in temples and were revered as high priestesses that could bring men closer to divinity. Sex was literally part of ritual and a huge part of their spiritual culture.
I did not find acceptance with my body, my sexuality, until I learned that there was so much more to the story than what I was told. The one where a female was responsible for the fall of man, that man was tempted by her and another man had to die for all the sin that she created by tempting that man. I was not able to give myself permission (P) to be who I am now until I learned of the TRUE, creative power of women and the fear associated with Her. It wasn’t until I took matters into my own hands, researching, learning, that for thousands upon thousands of years prior to these stories there was another story that reined far longer, for centuries, beginning with the Stone Age, globally. That’s when it all made perfect sense to me. That feeling I had inside of me that I knew was in my DNA, my genetic memory speaking to me. I was very powerful as a woman. Feared as a woman, contained because I was a woman, craved because I was a woman, loved uncontrollably because I was a woman. I became free from my own chains once I received more information on my very own “herstory” as a woman.